Comparing yourself to others is never wise, but I found myself engulfed by the "she has more than me" bug last week. Friday we had a play date at a friend's house, and it was the first time for us to visit her home. I walked in and was immediately floored. Her house was huge, had all the upgraded appliances, custom kitchen, and decorated perfectly. Don't get me wrong, I was thrilled for my friend. In the back of my mind, I could hear the whispers of comparison starting to get louder.
Later that same night, we went to my best friend's house. They bought a house with plenty of land and a pool. Their house is gorgeous, 1000 square feet bigger than mine, and decked out with all the bells and whistles. Again, I am thrilled for my friend and so glad that she will let me come over anytime I want. After viewing another huge, beautiful home, that whisper in my head turned into a scream.
The questions started forming in my mind. Are we the poorest couple of all of our friends? Why did I wait so long to finish college? Will we ever afford a house like that? I also started playing the mind game "our house is not enough". We don't have stainless steal appliances, we don't have brand new furniture, we don't have granite counter tops, we don't have a nice view from our home. The world's smallest violin played for three days straight as I wallowed in comparing my home to my friends' homes.
On the fourth day a light bulb went off. If I compare myself to my friends, then I must also compare my life to my mother. When she had children that are the age of my children, she lived in an unfinished house, had a broken down vehicle, second hand everything, and she didn't always know if we would eat that week.
What in the blazes was wrong with me? I have healthy children, a loving husband, a warm home, plenty of food to eat, and a minivan with tons of buttons. I have the opportunity to stay at home with my children and still pursue my writing career. God has truly blessed us!
If you are comparing your life with those that look like they have it better than you, then you are only hurting yourself. When you compare your life with those that do not have as much as you, then the humble spirit you once possessed comes running back. I will probably find myself comparing to those around me in the future. When I do, I just need to count my blessings.