5 Reasons to Wait to Have a Baby

After you have said I do, and made the commitment to love each other for the rest of your lives, you will soon find yourself answering this question. "When are you going to have a baby?" You will be asked that question until you announce to the world that you are pregnant.

Kevin and I waited 7 years before we had J. By that time, my parents and pretty much everyone else gave up on us ever having babies. Having a child is a huge decision and completely life changing. You should only approach the thought of having a baby if you are willing to have your life turned upside down. I'm not saying it is a bad change. It is just a huge change.

There are several reasons to wait to have a baby. 

1. You are a newlywed. Get to know your husband and how to live with each other before throwing another person in the mix. The foundation for a strong family is a healthy marriage built in God. Pray together, talk for hours, go out to dinner, and get to know your spouse. Dating doesn't stop when you say I do.

2. You are young. Kevin was 21 and I was 19 when we got hitched. If we had a baby right away we would not have been ready. We were still deciding on careers, where we wanted to live, and we didn't want to grow up with our children. 

3. You want to travel. Traveling with children is not impossible. The boys are getting to an age that I am now looking forward to traveling with them. Seeing the world and exploring new lands is easier without children. Visit some of your top destinations on your list before having children. It will be cheaper and you will have the freedom to see the sites without carrying a diaper bag around. 

4. Finish school. For some, this may be cosmetology school, others may need to finish their undergrad or master degree. It is so much easier to finish your degree without warming up bottles in the middle of the night. Kevin and I both finished school after we started a family, and it was not easy. The child will always come first, and school work will have to wait until the baby is in bed. 

5. Not financially secure. It's true that you will never be financially ready for children, but there are some things you need in place before having a baby.  A job with a steady income and insurance will make your life a lot easier when it comes to providing for the little one. Having a baby is not cheap, but it can be done on a budget.

After reading this list, you may never want to have children. This list is not meant to discourage you, but to help you in the planning of your family. Children are a huge blessing and an enormous responsibility. When you are ready to have children and plan ahead you will be so happy you made the decision to have a family of your own. Kevin and I are so blessed with our children. We are not perfect, and we should have done some of the things on this list before bringing home baby. We've made it work, and you can too.


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